Screen time without arguments: rules that help families

Set the rules together

It’s best to agree on rules at a calm moment, not when time is just running out. Talk it through: when is there screen time, how long, what may be played or watched, and what happens when time is up? The German paediatric guideline advises parents to set rules and to accompany children’s first experiences with media.

Write the agreement down. One template you can fill in together is the media use agreement by klicksafe and Internet-ABC (in German).

Make time visible

When everyone can see how much time is left, the end comes as less of a surprise. The guideline recommends making time visible, for example with an hourglass or a stopwatch. Technology can help too: software or a smart plug switches off automatically when time is up.

Announce the end

A heads-up a few minutes before the end gives time to finish a round or save. A fixed next activity also helps, such as dinner, going outside or playing something together, so switching off doesn’t leave a gap.

Don’t use screens as a parenting tool

The guideline advises against using screens as a reward, a punishment or to calm a child down. Fixed rules that apply the same way every day work better, regardless of grades or mood.

Be a role model and stay involved

• Screens stay off during meals, for everyone.
• Parents don’t keep checking their own phones.
• Show interest: ask what your child is playing or watching, and do some of it together.
• Keep learning time and leisure time on screens clearly apart.